Self-Regulation

Poise

Self-Regulation refers to our ability to change, adapt, control, and influence, our behavior, in the pursuit of achieving a goal or attaining a standard of excellence. 

One of the primary functions of self-regulation is the ability to make adjustments, to make changes, in our behavior. 

We tend to learn most things by trial and error, by trying something and seeing what happens, like learning how to walk or ride a bicycle. To learn in this manner, we need to be able to tolerate varying degrees of discomfort, pain, unpleasantness, as we become aware of making mistakes, or feedback that informs us how we can change our behavior until we achieve our goal or standard. This feedback loop is repeated over and over until the desired results are reached.

The process of learning needs to be made a top priority. The excitement that can occur in the discovery of Self and Nature, expanded understanding, and the meaning gleaned from Life Lessons can be a source of power and motivation. Learning how to be and feel relaxed/poised, confident, motivated and empowered enhances our ability to self-regulate.

In an article “Ten Thousand Failures,” By Michael Angler, I have quoted a part of that article as an example of how we can learn from our mistakes: “Thomas Edison once mentioned to reporters that he had tried over 10,000 materials as filaments for his new invention, the electric light bulb. One reporter asked how the young inventor maintained his persistence in the face of so much failure. "Failure?" he responded. "I didn't fail. What I did was successfully eliminate 10,000 elements which were unacceptable for my needs." What most people would call failure, Edison saw as the process of invention.

The ability to accept so-called failure simply as information and then make corrections without self-invalidation is rare. However, it is a critical key to success. Accepting defeat or criticism is never easy, but it is those people who take feedback and make corrections who create lasting success.”


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